Did anyone else see this secret on this Sunday’s PostSecret?
Those last five words are uncomfortably familiar.
After my first few losses, I wasn’t sure how I would be able to continue. I remember so clearly after the second and soul-crushing loss, how I briefly thought about driving into the river instead of going to the doctor’s, where I was headed. It seemed like such a better alternative than my reality at the time, with all of my hopes and dreams lying lifeless in a plastic container in the back of the car.
These particular words are so very bold and real, it is incredibly frightening. My experience was fortunately just a fleeting thought, but these, these are a permanent declaration. I know I don’t know the entire story, or how long she’s fought for this baby girl…but these words, they hit me in a way that make me want fight for our collective voice. So many of us have felt like our entire world ended with the loss of a heartbeat and felt at times like no one could possibly understand what it’s like to experience this heartache and this pain…and it’s all because people don’t talk about it. We are made to feel so completely alone in this grief because it’s not recognized as real grief. A woman like this needs to know that she’s not alone and that we’re all out here to help get her through this. I know I’m where I am today largely because of you guys; because of your brave words I learned I wasn’t alone in this. What if she doesn’t find that?
This is why it’s so important to keep talking about this out loud, and not just on our blogs. This is why the Redbook campaign is so important and why RESOLVE exists. I feel like I need to do more. If I can make just one other woman feel less alone, it will make all of this hell worth it. If I can stop one other woman from wanting to drive into a river, I want to find a way to do it.
I hope this woman finds the support she needs. More importantly, I hope she never needs to.