For those of you out there that have been through multiple miscarriages (or even just one), I wanted to recommend After Miscarriage by Krissi Danielsson. It is by far the best book on miscarriages that I have found yet. Even the title is approachable and to the point. I really like that it’s written by someone who has had recurrent pregnancy loss, not just one miscarriage and then a healthy pregnancy the very next time. After experiencing three losses, I’ve been searching for a book that speaks specifically to that. The other books that I’ve read have been written mostly by doctors who only know it from the medical point of view, not the personal experience. Danielsson has a voice I can relate to and she doesn’t sugar coat her words with hope, but still manages to inspire that in you regardless. Her chapter on how to cope with the grief and fear was exactly what I have needed. I highly recommend this book if you’re struggling after losing a baby (or even if you’re not struggling) or even you know someone who is and need to know more about what to say to her or what she is going through. If you do read it, let me know what you think.
(The cover kind of bothers me, though. Is that person in a robe behind her? Or maybe rocking a suit jacket with a t-shirt underneath, Miami Vice style? She looks really annoyed that his hand is on her shoulder.)