For those out there that know someone who has miscarried, please know that the very-well known fact that it is common, does not make it okay that we lost our baby. It does not replace the child that was supposed to be. It does not give us a reason for why we miscarried. It does not, ever, make us feel okay that we just lost all that we had hoped for. Those so-many-other women who have also experienced it? They’re mourning as well. And the fact that we also lost our baby, does not replace their child either. So please, just stop saying it. We already know this, and it still doesn’t help.
p.s. The part that does help in all of this, is when we find someone who has experienced a loss and we find support and strength and someone to share our tears with. But even this doesn’t ever give us our baby back.